5 important things my baby taught me.

Motherhood is such an incredible journey, and despite all the tiredness, busyness, the never ending list of jobs to do it truly is the most rewarding and satisfying job in the world.

Before Aura my life was very different, and since the day I got pregnant I’ve had a huge shift and pivot in direction in everything I want for myself, career and for my family. I'm very grateful for all the experiences I’ve had. So after two failed pregnancies in the past then our wedding being cancelled do to covid I’m even more grateful that she came into my life. And I don’t bring that up for sympathy, however being in “my prime” for getting pregnant and having one miscarriage after another I thought something was wrong with me and was scared to get pregnant again. It’s only now I have Aura and speaking to fellow mums you realise that unfortunately it is common for people to go through, we just don’t have the words to communicate it at the time.

So many people talk about how becoming a parent changes your life but it’s usually in a negative way and all the things you can’t do etc. And yes I’ll admit I’ve had a lot of fun over the years partying, last minute city breaks, nights out, holidays, off here and there and taking on so many exciting jobs (being a self-employed hair/makeup artist / beauty therapist). I now really appreciate the gift of being a mother/parent and I understand now why the universe blessed me with my baby girl.

1. Boundaries : Before getting pregnant with Aura my life was BUSY! My fiancé worked away and my main focus was my clients & keeping them happy. I loved what I did! Making people feel beautiful anyway I could. I really did love it and being a creative person pleasing it was fun, I’ve met so many different people from different walks of life that I’m very grateful for. Something I struggled with was setting boundaries. I couldn’t say no, I had no routine, no set times of working and I would work when I was poorly because I was so frightened of letting anyone down I would constantly burn myself out. I actually worked when I was going through both my miscarriages because I didn’t want to tell anyone what I was going through at the time and I was terrified of being “that girl who lets people down”. As soon as I got pregnant this time around I had to say no to things. I needed to be healthy, even though she is almost one I need to take care of myself because Aura needs me as her mother. Now If anyone needs me I put our family first and I still like to help the people around me as it’s in my nature but it must fit around aura’s routine.

1. Priorities : Though I was very happy in my career and grateful for all my clients and busy beauty business there were still things I really wanted to do more for myself. I'm an aries fire sign so I love to be social, yet the Capricorn moon in me craves “me time” which I rarely get bored because i always find something to read up on , or someone to motivate me or something to learn. Which probably makes sense why my rising sign is in libra which makes sense! I need that balance and I need to be mindful of the wrong energy I absorb. (We can get deep into astrology another time) but long story short there were things I really wanted to do, I wasn’t sure if what exactly Bruce’s I was always busy. Now on the other hand YES I’m very busy being a mama but I feel so lucky to be able to tune back into the things my soul wanted and do more things for me.

1. Time; Now this one I couldn't do without the first two points, but you don’t know how important time is until you take a step back. TIME IS VALUABLE and no one teaches you this growing up. You can spend so much time putting your energy into things that don’t serve you. It’s only now I’m precious with my time, my time with Aura is extremely precious and I also know to be a good parent I need my time (like now do e.g writing this blog I’m in the bath with a face mask on while taking a pause) .

1. LOVE : I believed everyone when they said the love you have for your baby is like no other, but you don’t truly feel it until you meet them and WOW… it’s like your heart has fireworks everyday! And because I love Aura so much, I want to be a better me. I want her to be proud, to set a good example, to go for every single thing on my goal board so she when she grows up she will have the confidence to do whatever it is she’s passionate about. And to look after myself and love myself so that she learns the same!

1. MY WHY!!! : Now I’ve heard people talk about their whys so many times, if you don’t know what a why is —> “is a statement of purpose that describes why you do the work you do and why you live the lifestyle you do. It is your calling. It is your conviction. It is your mission statement. It is a vision of your life and work that drives you to do what you’re passionate about! And now I’m a mother to Aura my ‘why’ is absolutely crystal clear. I must do everything for her.

I really was not expecting this to be such a long read but once I started typing it just flowed naturally, I've tried my best not to babble on too much. So if you’re still here thank you for reading! Definitely reach out and connect with me in the comment box in on my isntagram.

moll @molliealice.Christina